Why fell in love

She fell in love with you because you told her songs to listen to that she replays too often thinking of you. She fell in love with you because you noticed when she got a haircut or changed something little.

She fell in love with you because you were a challenge and complicated and something she wanted to know and figure out. She fell in love with you because suddenly meeting you, you were the only thing that made sense in her life. Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave , a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday.

You may unsubscribe at any time. By subscribing, you agree to the terms of our Privacy Statement. She fell in love with you because for the first time someone was reciprocating all she gave. But if your emotional needs were not nurtured, you did not fully develop and instead became a demanding and anxious adult still seeking the love you missed as a child.

That's not to say that people from neglectful or non-loving homes aren't capable of love themselves, but they might need to do some extra work to resolve their issues and get there. Remember the pair bonding Nance mentioned? Well, it happens for a reason. When people fall in love, they go into a state of limerence," she said, which is a fancy way of saying infatuation or obsession.

This happens because our brains and hormones go wild when faced with a sincere love interest. The good feeling is a reward that makes us want more," Nance explained. Although serotonin levels vary per person, they can also go down during the head-over-heels process. As a result, decreased serotonin may produce OCD-like symptoms that cause some people to think of the person they are in love with constantly, said Dr. The hormonal reactions aren't limited to romantic love, however.

Occasionally, eyes meet across the room and the rest is history. For most of us, however, falling in love is more complicated. Sometimes, the person who wants to be loved is unconsciously getting in their own way. When you feel lovable you project that out and other people notice," Palmer said. The needier they appear, the less chance there is for someone to enter their life to fulfill those needs," she added, noting that it's critical to "love yourself without being dependent on other people's opinions.

Once you're ready to love yourself and are open to outside love, the rest is timing, chemistry and common ground. Although the old saying " opposites attract " remains prevalent, it's actually false in most cases. At the end of the day, love is relative, so don't expect your relationship to look, feel or act the same as past experiences or like those of your friends. Ever looked back on a teenage romance and wondered what you were thinking?

You're not the only one. Sign up for our Newsletter! But why are we so afraid of loss after all? We are so blessed to have experienced it to begin with. It means there was a presence of care. That ache in our heart and the deep pit in our stomach means there was something there to fill those vacant voids.

The empty spaces were just simply whole. We're all so afraid of change. Change in our love life or our families, change in our friendships and daily routines. One day we will remember that losing someone isn't about learning how to live without them, but to know their presence, and to carry what they left us behind.

For everything we've deeply loved, we cannot lose. They become a part of us. We adapt to the way they talk, we make them a part of our Instagram passwords, we remember when they told us to cook chicken for 20 minutes instead of We as humans are so lucky to meet so many people that will one day leave us.

We are so lucky to have the ability and courage to suffer, to grieve, and to wish for a better ending. For that only means, we were lucky enough to love. When Sony announced that Venom would be getting a stand-alone movie, outside of the Tom Holland MCU Spider-Man films, and intended to start its own separate shared universe of films, the reactions were generally not that kind.

Even if Tom Hardy was going to take on the role, why would you take Venom, so intrinsically connected to Spider-Man's comic book roots, and remove all of that for cheap action spectacle? Needless to say I wound up hopping on the "lets bash 'Venom'" train. While I appreciated how much fun Tom Hardy was having and the visual approach to the symbiotes, I couldn't get behind the film's tone or story, both of which felt like relics of a bygone era of comic book storytelling that sacrificed actual pathos for that aforementioned cheap spectacle.

But apparently that critical consensus was in the minority because audiences ate the film up. On top of that, Ruben Fleischer would step out of the director's chair in place of Andy Serkis, the visual effects legend behind characters like 'The Lord of the Rings' Gollum and 'Planet of the Apes' Caesar, and a pretty decent director in his own right.

Now with a year-long pandemic delay behind it, 'Venom: Let There Be Carnage' is finally here, did it change my jaded little mind about the character's big-screen worth? Surprisingly, it kind of did. I won't pretend that I loved it by any stretch, but while 'Let There Be Carnage' still features some of its predecessor's shortcomings, there's also a tightness, consistency and self-awareness that's more prevalent this time around; in other words, it's significantly more fun!

A year after the events of the first film, Eddie Brock played by Tom Hardy is struggling with sharing a body with the alien symbiote, Venom also voiced by Hardy. Things change when Eddie is contacted by Detective Pat Mulligan played by Stephen Graham , who says that the serial killer Cletus Kasady will talk only with Eddie regarding his string of murders.

His interview with Kasady played by Woody Harrelson leads to Eddie uncovering the killer's victims and confirming Kasady's execution. During their final meeting, Kasady bites Eddie, imprinting part of Venom onto Kasady. When Kasady is executed, the new symbiote awakens, merging with Kasady into a bloody, far more violent incarnation known as Carnage.

It's up to Eddie and Venom to put aside their differences to stop Carnage's rampage, as well as Frances Barrison played by Naomi Harris , Kasady's longtime girlfriend whose sonic scream abilities pose a threat to both Venom and Carnage. So what made me completely switch gears this time around? There's a couple reasons, but first and foremost is the pacing. Serkis and screenwriter Kelly Marcel know exactly where to take the story and how to frame both Eddie and Venom's journeys against the looming threat of Carnage.

Even when the film is going for pure, outrageous humor, it never forgets the qualms between Eddie and Venom should be at the center beyond the obvious comic book-y exhibitions. If you were a fan of Eddie's anxious sense of loss, or the back-and-forth between he and the overly eccentric Venom, you are going to love this movie. Hardy has a great grasp on what buttons to push for both, especially Venom, who has to spend a chunk of the movie contending with losing Eddie altogether and find their own unique purpose among other things, what is essentially Venom's "coming out" moment that actually finds some weight in all the jokes.

Then there's Harrelson as Carnage and he absolutely delivers! Absolutely taking a few cues from Heath Ledger's Joker, Harrelson is leaning just enough into campy territory to be charismatic, but never letting us forget the absolutely shattered malicious mind controlling the spaghetti wrap of CGI.

Serkis' directing itself deserves some praise too. I can't necessarily pinpoint his style, but like his approach on 'Mowgli,' he has a great eye for detail in both character aesthetics and worldbuilding. That goes from the symbiotes' movements and action bits to bigger things like lighting in a church sequence or just making San Francisco feel more alive in the process. As far as downsides go, what you see is basically what you get.

While I was certainly on that train more here, I also couldn't help but hope for more on the emotional side of things. Yes, seeing the two be vulnerable with one another is important to their arcs and the comedy infusions work more often than not, but it also presents a double-edged sword of that quick runtime, sacrificing time for smaller moments for bigger, more outrageous ones. In addition, while Hardy and Harrelson are electric together, I also found a lot of the supporting characters disappointing to a degree.

Mulligan has a few neat moments, but not enough to go beyond the tough cop archetype. The only one who almost makes it work is Naomi Harris, who actually has great chemistry with Harrelson until the movie has to do something else with her.

It's those other characters that make the non-Venom, non-Carnage moments stall significantly and I wish there was more to them.

I wouldn't go so far as to have complete faith in this approach to Sony's characters moving forward — Venom or whatever larger plans are in the works — but I could safely recommend this whatever side of the film spectrum you land on. This kind of fun genre content is sorely needed and I'm happy I had as good of a time as I did. Brittany Morgan, National Writer's Society 2. Kristen Haddox , Penn State University 4. Welcome back. Sign in to comment to your favorite stories, participate in your community and interact with your friends.

No account? Create one. Start writing a post. I love you. University of Texas at San Antonio. To my Boyfriend, I know you do not like the mushy-gushy romance stuff but if you ever do read this I just wanted to let you know you have been on my mind a lot more lately than you ever have been before.

Reason number one why I fell in love with you: I fell in love with the way you speak. The way you speak to me. I fell in love with how your voice sends bullets through my chest every time you tell me you love me.

I fell in love with the way you whisper to me about secrets we have or things kept between you and me. Reason number two why I fell in love with you: I fell in love with the way you handle me, and comfort me, and how you are the shoulder I can cry on.

You are my favorite person to go to for anything. Wether it is because I failed a test or I am having girl problems or simply because I want to hear you talk, you are always here for me no matter the circumstance.

You always have my back. Reason number three why I fell in love with you: I love you for your personality. It is one of my favorite traits about you. Along the way of falling in love, I fall more in love with you as a person. Your looks are a bonus but falling in love with the way you smile or the way you get excited are the only things that matter to me. Reason number five why I fell in love with you: I fell in love with the way you are passionate about the sport you secretly love.

How you manage to motivate me while you motivate yourself. I fell in love with the way you get mad after you have done bad or the way you cross the finish line holding that number one up like you know you have done your job. I fell in love with the way you tell me I am good even though it may not be true, you cover it up pretty well. I fell in love with the way you race and how every step you take you aim to be better. Reason number 6 why I fell in love with you: I fell in love with your beliefs.

Wether is is about God, fate, or other things, you have taught me a great amount of self-belief, like it is up to me to decide how I want to live my life. I fell in love with how open you are with ideas and other beliefs but also how you do not demonetize my beliefs. Reason number seven why I fell in love with you: I fell in love with your touch.

Throughout our relationship, I feel like I have become closer to you not only by comfort and trust, but by souls. I feel as if our souls are connected together, beating as one, growing as one, learning as one.

Your touch is home, my world, and is all of my feelings collected into one. You have become my place for comfort and guidance. Reason number eight why I fell in love with you: I fell in love with the way you say my name.

The way you call me "Em". I love the comfort in your voice and the gentleness of your words. The way you say my name reminds me of how beautiful I am, how loved I am, and how much you love me.